A Message from Soul’s Code
Posted by Soul's Code on 30 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Sacred Days
Archive for December, 2007
DEALING WITH LOSS: A Personal Note
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Loss & Grieving, PRAYER WALL
A Scandinavian tradition on Christmas Eve is to illuminate the graves — and spirits — of departed loved ones with candles (left). We dedicate this series to those who have recently suffered the loss of a loved one — especially during the holiday season.
When others around you […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 1
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Loss & Grieving
Taking Care of No. 1
Processing loss draws down an enormous chunk of your psyche’s bandwidth. The death of a loved one is exhausting. You keep asking yourself what’s wrong with your because you’re staggering around as if you’ve been hit by a […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 2
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Rites & Role models, David Richo, Loss & Grieving
Re-orienting Yourself
The loss of a loved one is a shock to your system. It’s useful to remind yourself that you’re in trauma. A being who took up a Grand Canyon worth of space in your psyche is gone. The vacuum their loss […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 3
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Loss & Grieving
A Whirlpool of Emotions
After the death of a loved one, every funeral home in America will give you a psychological tip-sheet that cites the five stages of grief. It’s cribbed from the 1969 book, On Death and Dying, by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, a […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 4
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Loss & Grieving, Break-Ups & Love Triangles
What to Say to Someone Who has just Lost a Loved One
Woody Allen’s aphorism that “80 percent of success is simply showing up” is the cardinal rule when helping out someone who has just had a parent or loved one die on […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 5
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Mind-Body toolkit, Watsu & Somatic Experiencing, Loss & Grieving
Loss, Trauma and Somatic Therapy
On the opening page of Love in the Time of Cholera, Nobel-winning author Gabriel Garcia Marquez set down one of literary fiction’s most arresting images of death: He writes that a character who commits suicide “had escaped the torments of memory.”
The flip-side […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 6
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Eckhart Tolle, Loss & Grieving
How to Take a Leap of Faith
After the immediate shock of death or a life-loss, expressing your emotions and sharing your story of the loss helps to discharge some of the trauma. But if you cling to the story of that loss for years, the narrative […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 7
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Love & Relationships (families included), Prescriptions to Problems, Caroline Myss, Soul's Code Canon & reviews, Loss & Grieving, Break-Ups & Love Triangles
Why People Can’t Get Over a Lost Love
“You had me at cathexis,” is a line of real-life dialogue from one of our own nine love-lives. It’s also a pun on the signature line in the movie, Jerry Maguire. If break-ups are the most common form […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 8
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Love & Relationships (families included), Prescriptions to Problems, Mind-Body toolkit, Loss & Grieving, Break-Ups & Love Triangles
Getting Over a Break-Up: The ‘Spotless Mind’ Method
Break-ups are the most common source of loss around us today. Suddenly cut off by a lover or a spouse, many people experience loss so intensely that the only relief they can imagine is imagining that their ex didn’t […]
DEALING WITH LOSS: Step 9
Posted by Soul's Code on 24 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Prescriptions to Problems, Rites & Role models, Psych 101, Loss & Grieving
No Hay Mal Que Por Bien No Venga
Latina superstar Gloria Estefan knows a thing or two about pain and loss. In 1990, her tour bus was crushed by a truck — and smashed several of her vertebrea. Doctors fused them with titanium rods but told the […]
The New Female Mystics
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, Female Mystics
A vanguard of self-schooled female mystics are doing an end-run around the mainstream self-help and New Age movements — and are advancing a radical, 21st century spirituality. Call it the ‘Anti-Me Generation.’
In this series, we introduce some of the avatars of the […]
The New Female Mystics: An ‘Anti-Me’ Generation
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, TEACHERS WE TRACK, Prescriptions to Problems, Female Mystics, Oprah, Rites & Role models
These wise-women represent an implicit indictment of the legion of vendors from the human potential movement who appear on Oprah’s show, or who fill the pages of Common Ground. Those services are New Age brands that explicitly pitch self-improvement, and promise to fill […]
The New Female Mystics: No Logo
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, Prescriptions to Problems, Female Mystics
This ‘Anti-Me’ generation of teachers also resists branding particular counter-measures for the likes of anxiety, addictions, adultery and affairs.
“I’m reluctant to specify a goal or repetitive motion using some technique,” says Ingram. “I see people identifying as the doer — ‘I sat for […]
The New Female Mystics: Post-Modern Gurus
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, Prescriptions to Problems, Female Mystics
A notable exception to the The New Female Mystics: Run Silent, Run Deep
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, Prescriptions to Problems, Female Mystics, Rites & Role models, Mind-Body toolkit
While Byron Katie has tried to codify her Work, her approach is still very much a common touchstone for the teachings of the new, self-styled prophets. She uses thought to disarm itself through a sequence of deceptively simple questions. Other approaches […]
The New Female Mystics: Boot-Strappers
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, Prescriptions to Problems, Female Mystics
One reason it is hard to codify some of the practices of post-modern mystics in words is because they’re more like signposts that point you toward a mental state that lies precisely beyond words. How-to tips are superceded by a stronger path of […]
The New Female Mystics: Dark Nights of the Soul
Posted by Soul's Code on 21 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Peak Experiences, Prescriptions to Problems, Female Mystics
How, exactly, did these remarkable women emerge as “realized” beings in our data-infused, image-obsessed society? Like Katie, most of them have reported a fundamental dissolution of a social or personal identity. For Smadar de Lange (left), a rising star who represents the […]
David Richo does Spirit Rock
Posted by soulscode on 15 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: TEACHERS WE TRACK, Mystical destinations, Rites & Role models, Soul's Code Canon & reviews, David Richo
We’re big fans of David Richo, a former Roman Catholic priest who integrated his Christian training into a Buddhist conversion — and found international acclaim as a spiritual teacher and author.
Most of all we’re impressed by the power of David’s personal presence, which is […]
Addiction: 9 Causes and Cures
Posted by Soul's Code on 14 Dec 2007 | Tagged as: Addiction
A FAMILY AFFAIR
December is high-season for socializing. But office parties or holiday family get-togethers can spin off a yin-yang quality. Yes, they are peak moments for comfort and genuine joy. They’re also forums for Pulp Fiction-style medieval moments: heightened emotions, childhood memories and other […]
