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Spiritual Surf: Sukkot, Letterman, Dalai Lama, World Council of Churches, Tantric Sex

Freedom from slavery celebrated

Jews around the world are celebrating the Feast of Booths, or Sukkot, commemorating the Hebrews’ freedom from slavery and sojourn through the Sinai desert. Always considered relevant, this holy day generates meditations on ecology, mysticism, and helping the homeless.

A day after the annual Jewish Day of Atonement, Yom Kippur, David Letterman was ironically forced by events beyond his control into offering a comical confession about affairs with female staff and blackmail.  Much like the Yom Kippur liturgy of confessing one’s sins in public. Letterman bared his soul, strongly reminiscent of the Yom Kippur confession of “unchastity”, or literally “shameful nakedness” (think of the “naked” Noah in the Bible–it is the same word).

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Spiritual Surf: Dalai Lama, UN and adidas make “peace”, the “Polygamy Experience”, an atonement experience, and reflective housewives

September 21st, the fall equinox, is the UN’s International Day of Peace — not to be confused with Global Orgasm Day, to be celebrated on December 21st, the winter solstice.

Old enemies team up: Execs from adidas and Puma will shake hands for the first time in six decades, and play football for peace. (

The Dalai Lama edits a newspaper for peace: The Nobel Peace Prize winner takes over The Vancouver Sun for a day, September 26, and hosts a global conference on loving kindness

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A body-worker works his own body with somatic knowing

Call it self-pleasuring, call it masturbation, call it whatever you want. But is it “spiritual”?

GUEST COLUMN: ED EHRGOTT — Coming to terms with my identity as a gay man in my early 20’s was the final reason for me to sever my connection to the Catholic Church; for many years, I had no spiritual identity or practice at all.

Raised Catholic, I vividly recall learning that sex and spirit were apparently two different things.

Spirit (which for many of us meant religion) was “good,” while sex was presented as something vile, and sometimes “evil.”

Spirituality was presented in the context of “proper behavior,” which usually meant not paying any attention to your body. In fact, it often meant denying any sexual feelings.

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If monogamy implies possession, how would you possess your Self?

Straddling the masculine and the feminine, sexually and spiritually speaking

Second in a two-part series by SMADAR DE LANGE — Many spiritual traditions, such as Kaśmir Śaivism, Hinduism, Sufism, and Judaism celebrate the union of two “separate” bodies as a sacred act that creates the deep experience of “oneness.”

But when we talk about “the juicy stuff,” the age old question is inevitable:  “What do women want?”

Although a general question, the answer is simplistic and partial: women want to experience their true feminine nature. In other words, they want to be accomplished as feminine, and one with this femininity.

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Mothering men

What do men want, sexually and spiritually speaking? A somatic therapist draws on psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan, the Tao Te Ching and personal experience

The first in a two-part series by SMADAR DE LANGE — What is a man’s deepest longing?

Some believe the simplistic psychological answer: men are predisposed to merge with their primal mothers, to feel once again the ultimate fusion and primal dyad of mother and son.

Perhaps, in actuality, this longing is for a space in which they may feel absolute safety, sweetness, and bliss.

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An incest survivor’s six steps to triumph over adversity

Phyllis King is no victim; she experienced abuse, yet found a way to re-frame negative experiences

GUEST COLUMN: PHYLLIS KING — As an incest survivor, I have learned a lot about control and abuse of power.

My life reads like a struggle for survival.  My challenges have included loneliness, betrayal, and rejection by many whom I held most dear.  As I journeyed through these events, I developed strength, courage and love.

With courage, I faced my fears, with strength I remained true to myself, and with love I experienced renewal.

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Spiritual Surf: Astronaut’s “X-Files,” sex and the single girl, priestly scandals, and Oprah tweets

It’s tough being one of the forgotten astronauts. You know the guys who went to the moon who aren’t either — Neil Armstrong or Buzz Aldrin. (Quick: What was the name of Armstrong and Aldrin’s companion astronaut? For the answer see the end of the article.)

Well, astronaut Edgar Mitchell, who flew to the moon in February of 1971, has been getting some controversial ink recently.  Addressing a crowd of UFO-ologists at the National Press Club, Mitchell said, “We are being visited” by aliens from outer space. “It is now time to put away this embargo of truth about the alien presence.” Soul’s Code enthusiasts tend to think the truth is in here. But what if it’s out there*way* out there?

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How I used intention to find my ‘ideal’ man

A 20-something seeker from South Carolina shares her secrets for finding, and realizing, love in the 21st century

GUEST COLUMN: CHELSEA LANGAN — Imagine remembering only the very best memories, and making only the finest plans for the future. This is all that should be going on when you are fully immersed in the present moment (a theme explored brilliantly in the movie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind).

My mantra to myself: ‘Negative thoughts that come across your mind are strictly off limits.’ Acknowledging this is really all it takes to eliminate the flotsam that weighs us down.  It is possible to let your inner light of love and life literally take over every process and aspect of your life.

What works for me: letting go and surrendering.  We are called to abandon worry and create moments of stillness in our minds to think precisely of NOTHING.  Hard to do, right?   Try these tricks throughout the day.

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Yin, Yang and “regenerative” sexuality

An excerpt from the newly-released book, The Tao of Rejuvenation, by ANGELO DRUDA

In Traditional Chinese Medicine and Taoism, the male is understood to be the embodiment of the “yang” fire force to the female’s watery “yin”.  In the Tantric teachings of India, the male force is Shiva to the female’s Shakti.

In both systems and there are many others that use a similar framework conditional existence is seen as a great play of opposing forces: light and dark, hot and cold, pain and pleasure, birth and death.

It is a play of endless modifications.  Opposites attract each other, looking to find equanimity and resolution in each other.

The hot yang of the man seeks balance in the cool yin of the woman.

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