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Spiritual Surf: Sukkot, Letterman, Dalai Lama, World Council of Churches, Tantric Sex

Freedom from slavery celebrated

Jews around the world are celebrating the Feast of Booths, or Sukkot, commemorating the Hebrews’ freedom from slavery and sojourn through the Sinai desert. Always considered relevant, this holy day generates meditations on ecology, mysticism, and helping the homeless.

A day after the annual Jewish Day of Atonement, Yom Kippur, David Letterman was ironically forced by events beyond his control into offering a comical confession about affairs with female staff and blackmail.  Much like the Yom Kippur liturgy of confessing one’s sins in public. Letterman bared his soul, strongly reminiscent of the Yom Kippur confession of “unchastity”, or literally “shameful nakedness” (think of the “naked” Noah in the Bible–it is the same word).

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Spiritual Surf: Dalai Lama, UN and adidas make “peace”, the “Polygamy Experience”, an atonement experience, and reflective housewives

September 21st, the fall equinox, is the UN’s International Day of Peace — not to be confused with Global Orgasm Day, to be celebrated on December 21st, the winter solstice.

Old enemies team up: Execs from adidas and Puma will shake hands for the first time in six decades, and play football for peace. (

The Dalai Lama edits a newspaper for peace: The Nobel Peace Prize winner takes over The Vancouver Sun for a day, September 26, and hosts a global conference on loving kindness

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A body-worker works his own body with somatic knowing

Call it self-pleasuring, call it masturbation, call it whatever you want. But is it “spiritual”?

GUEST COLUMN: ED EHRGOTT — Coming to terms with my identity as a gay man in my early 20’s was the final reason for me to sever my connection to the Catholic Church; for many years, I had no spiritual identity or practice at all.

Raised Catholic, I vividly recall learning that sex and spirit were apparently two different things.

Spirit (which for many of us meant religion) was “good,” while sex was presented as something vile, and sometimes “evil.”

Spirituality was presented in the context of “proper behavior,” which usually meant not paying any attention to your body. In fact, it often meant denying any sexual feelings.

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If monogamy implies possession, how would you possess your Self?

Straddling the masculine and the feminine, sexually and spiritually speaking

Second in a two-part series by SMADAR DE LANGE — Many spiritual traditions, such as Kaśmir Śaivism, Hinduism, Sufism, and Judaism celebrate the union of two “separate” bodies as a sacred act that creates the deep experience of “oneness.”

But when we talk about “the juicy stuff,” the age old question is inevitable:  “What do women want?”

Although a general question, the answer is simplistic and partial: women want to experience their true feminine nature. In other words, they want to be accomplished as feminine, and one with this femininity.

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Mothering men

What do men want, sexually and spiritually speaking? A somatic therapist draws on psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan, the Tao Te Ching and personal experience

The first in a two-part series by SMADAR DE LANGE — What is a man’s deepest longing?

Some believe the simplistic psychological answer: men are predisposed to merge with their primal mothers, to feel once again the ultimate fusion and primal dyad of mother and son.

Perhaps, in actuality, this longing is for a space in which they may feel absolute safety, sweetness, and bliss.

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Animal love

With meditation and practice you can learn to commune with pets and all of God’s creatures

GUEST COLUMN: KAREN ANDERSON — For as long as I can remember I have always loved animals. When I was young I remember spending the day with my animal friends, sharing all of my hopes and dreams with them.

At that age, I had the ability to understand what the animals were experiencing and feeling, and thought everyone could do so. I was able to sense their happiness, sadness and sometimes even their pain.

Many years later, after my communicating abilities had long-since faded, I was deep in meditation when spirit guides came to me and unveiled the path I would soon take.

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May the Source be with you

Our thoughts can create a personal heaven or hell. A psychic guide offers four ways to tune your inner voice to a higher frequency.     

GUEST COLUMN: PHYLLIS KING — When people ask me about their love life, money, or career, often the answer is not about whom they are going to meet, if they’ll make money, or whether they should change careers.

More often, the answer lies somewhere between one’s self-perception and how he or she relates to the human experience.

I am constantly reminding people about the truth of life we too often forget: remembering begets the empowerment to allow good to happen in life.

What we give our attention to is what we bring into our lives.

Look at your life: your circumstances as well as your feelings every moment of every day, and this will tell you exactly the quality and content of your thoughts and beliefs.

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How to say goodbye to an animal you’ve loved

An animal communicator talks about the complexities surrounding the decision to let your friend pass on

GUEST COLUMN: KAREN ANDERSON — One of the most difficult decisions we will ever make is when to say goodbye to our beloved animal companions.

Those of you who have struggled with this painful decision know the ups and downs of your emotions, the guilt, the uncertainty and the sadness of it all.

You are not alone in your pain. I receive many calls from distraught humans in the same situation who just want to be sure the time is right.  Although their situations are each different and unique, the ultimate result is the same.

They have made the decision to end their animal’s life. . .

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“May I Be Frank” finds the Importance of not Being Earnest

A San Francisco-based independent film documents an ex-addict’s journey to his own soul’s code

GUEST COLUMN: DANNY KENNY — Some people are born Frank and some people learn to be Frank, but in the new film “May I be Frank?” no one can ever really be Frank except, well, Frank. Earnest, characterized as someone with a firm, humorless, and sincere belief in the validity of his own opinion is, thankfully, nowhere to be found in this flick. If you are, however, thinking flashy Italian American who does things his own way, you’re on the right track. But this is ultimately a story about a man in search of his voice and a different kind of love, perhaps the most elusive . . . self love.

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