Six ways compassion changed my life
Tired of situations that don’t resonate with you and your life? The secret of compassion
SPECIAL TO SOUL’S CODE: DR. JEANINE AUSTIN — Many of the great spiritual teachers throughout time emphasize the power of love in action, also known as compassion. As a life coach who specializes in helping women, I often offer techniques that are love-based.
When I have clients who are seeking monumental shifts and changes, why mess with a weaker ideology?
In my experience, there is no greater power or law than that of love in action, which is another way of saying compassion. Divinely-inspired love is the most potent force of sentience.
Love has the alchemical potential to transform anything into something that transcends its form or (perceived) limitations. Compassion is the understanding that we are connected to others regardless of race, creed or orientation. Compassion is without judgment; it acknowledges the Divine in every person, including ourselves.
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” — Dalai Lama
As a society, we may be tempted to think of love or compassion only as fleeting — romantic, or even trivial. Yet compassion based on love is centered on generosity, healthy boundaries, and spiritual maturity. It is a force that heals.
In my 25 years of experience as a professional, I have known nothing to heal as quickly, or completely, as compassion. Unfortunately, compassion doesn’t have the sex appeal of a pill, a diet, bestselling book, celebrity seeker or popular new guru. However, I know compassion to be God’s most powerful gift to we humans, and greatest elixir.
Six styles of compassion
1. Body: The best exercise for your body isn’t necessarily a daily gym workout but to exercise compassion for the corporeal vessel that hosts your consciousness. This form of compassion is more likely to align your body to fit your authentic self. Watch how a gentle but disciplined approach to yourself and others will emerge from this practice.
You will refrain from beating yourself up emotionally when you are not making choices that support your healthiest body. A healthy body is born from consistency.
2. Attractiveness: The best countermeasure to the glammed-out superficiality of our media-infused culture is a compassion that invites you not to judge yourself, or compare yourself to Photoshopped models and celebs. Instead, treat yourself with compassion by inviting these twin qualities of being to you: relaxation and joy.
If you are happy you feel more attractive, and you are more attractive (literally and metaphorically). When you feel the sense of joy that being a compassionate person gives you, you are much more likely to attract the job, a partner, friendships and all the things those magazine cover-lines on the newsstand promise.
3. Abundance: Compassion makes you feel more connected to Source. When you feel aligned with the Divine you know that you are abundance.
If you feel abundant, trusting God to provide what is needed, you attract and step into the reality that you are one with Source. Furthermore, those who feel lack tend not to give. When you give, you feel abundant because you signal to yourself that you have more than you need, and have enough to give.
4. Authenticity: If you focus on what is essential (love in action: compassion) you are more aligned to the truth of who you are. You tend not to be involved with situations that do not resonate with who you really are. You are on “purpose.”
5. Meaning: Compassion infuses your life with meaning. It helps you find deep satisfaction that is unwavering, and not based on being affected by temporal, external circumstances. It calls to mind the famous lesson in A Course in Miracles: “Only the love is real.”
6. Healthy Boundaries: Buddhist doctrine treats compassion as one of life’s golden rules. But Buddhist nun Pema Chodron wrote that there is such a thing as “dumb compassion,” a form of which is, say, allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. Compassion for yourself can mean saying no to what doesn’t work for you. Turning our back on a situation may be the most generous way to handle a situation. We can always have the choice to release a sister or brother or partner with love.
If you wish to maximize your own potential, make love in action your mantra.
Even if we never see someone’s secret face, let’s remember that they have one. Not to acknowledge this might originate from callousness, naiveté or some other form of denial. In the end, we hurt only ourselves if we don’t embrace compassion. After all, when we extend compassion, we are one of the beneficiaries.
Jeanine Austin holds a Master’s degree in clinical social work and a Doctorate in life-coaching. Her passion is helping women live a joyfully authentic life. Jeanine provides one-on-one coaching and offers a free consultation by Email. Visit Simply Divine Solutions for more information.