Tag Archives: anger
dark-knight

Dealing with an angry person: 4 choices

When people lose it, one tactic is the Aikido of Communication

SOUL’S CODE —  Like a scene out of the Michael Douglas movie, Falling Down, a just-divorced aerospace worker in California’s “Inland Empire,” dressed up as a Santa on Christmas Eve 2008 and shot nine people at his in-laws’ holiday party.

The  day after Christmas, 2008 in Philadelphia, 29-year-old James Joseph Cialella Jr. shot a father in a movie theatre after arguing with the latter and his son while watching the Brad Pitt-Cate Blanchett vehicle, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button.

On July 20, 2012, America had another Columbine-style shooting in Colorado — this time in a multiplex called Cinemark (here is their retrograde stock symbol), and the title of the thriller happened to be “Dark Knight.”

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Memo to Alec Baldwin: How to stay grounded on holiday flights

Memo to Alec Baldwin: How to stay grounded on holiday flights

Flying triggers anxiety in even the most enlightened. Try this in-flight meditation to curb air-rage

SOUL’S CODE — Look no further than 30 Rock, and its politically-ambitious star Alec Baldwin’s pre-Christmas meltdown on an American Airlines flight from New York to LA. The pilot ordered the Hunt for the Red October actor removed from the plane (and let’s not kid ourselves, Alec is an Elite American Advantage club member).

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Carmaggedon: When you’re stuck in apocalyptic traffic

Carmaggedon: When you’re stuck in apocalyptic traffic

Lessons learned from L.A., Johannesburg, Sao Paolo and other metros where road rage is a danger to your body — and soul

BY RICK LEED — When stuck in your car in painful, frustrating, unimaginable traffic, already late for an appointment, who hasn’t felt like a Looney Tunes cartoon character, with steam coming out of their ears, fists pounding the steering wheel, and eyes turning red and bulging out of their head?

Road rage is usually directed at someone else who has done something heinous — or at the least, rude, like cut you off, changed lanes unexpectedly, or flipped you the finger.  But the inward-focused rage and fury that has no specific personal target is so often worse, creating more stress, more anger, more intense negative energy:  ‘Why the hell isn’t this traffic moving?’

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ego

Technically speaking, everyone around you is a projection

How to use the prism of trans-personal psychology to find yourself in the people and things you see around you every day

GUEST COLUMN: SUE FREEMAN When I come into contact with my authentic self, I discover my innermost critic, sage, child, lovestruck groupie and friend.

All these characters and more live within each of us, and represent an aspect of ourselves we either embrace or deny.

Then we go out into the world, come into contact with other people, develop or end relationships. We see in these people aspects we are drawn to or behaviors that repel us.

But in truth, we are seeing a mirror.  Other people’s actions reflect a version of ourselves.

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When anger is all the rage

The toll of road rage is harmful to yourself and other living things. One spiritual driver steers his emotions with a lesson from A Course in Miracles, Guy Finley and Leo Tolstoy

GUEST COLUMN: BRYAN WALTON — The dense traffic was inching along the highway and once again I was resigned to being home late that night. In the rear view mirror I caught a glimpse of a vehicle, about six cars back, sneak out onto the shoulder and accelerate past the slowly moving convoy. As the SUV drove by, I felt a wave of anger and resentment towards the inconsiderate driver.

But, almost immediately, I had a twinge of guilt for having such intense negative feelings; I consider myself a nice guy, laid-back, and tolerant. The guilt must have had an effect on me: within a couple of minutes, the feelings dissipated and I was back to my normal self.

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Spiritual Surf: The Joy of Destruction

Spiritual Surf: The Joy of Destruction

Just how destructive is our Pain Body?

It’s hard not to be excited by a new group of websites showing the destruction of various consumer products. The simple question WillitBlend.com poses gets put to the test with every type of imaginable product and substance. Conceived as a marketing strategy for a blender company, the videos can be stunningly addictive. Tom Dickson offers a straight-man delivery of canned jokes, that when combined with a blender, can be quite funny. Some of the best videos are the blending of a digital video camera, an iPod, glowsticks, and an annoying Valentine’s Day gift.

Then there’s the more orgiastic destruction of an Apple Powerbook by a German lady dressed in a black Ursla Andress style bikini, red high-heel boots and utility goggles. That video is different from others appearing on the Bikinirama site in that the destruction seems to be motivated by a malfunction. Other videos on the site involve more of a ritualistic destruction, seemingly for no other reason than our amusement. Various consumer electronics are presented in the harsh light of what could be an underground parking lot or a fetish dungeon then destroyed with vigor.

Then there’s the Office Space Printer Take Down that is arguably the progenitor of the genre of consumer electronic destruction (The video link has some language and lyrics that some may find offensive).

Is this any different than watching a violent movie, or gawking at a car crash? If you’re an Eckhart Tolle fan, you’re apt to say…

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Church Parking: When good people do bad things

Church Parking: When good people do bad things

23-year-old Thomas Kyle Nursey parked his Ford F-150 pickup truck inside a Catholic church Tuesday morning, according to news reports. The Floridian decided he wanted to go to church at 3 A.M. and drove his truck straight through the front doors to display his anger at God. Police booked him.

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Spiritual Surf: Revenge is a dish best served in the nude?

The best ways to handle anger: nude photo sessions, slutty behavior or destructive behavior

A woman left children entrusted to her care unattended to venture into the woods and pose for nude pictures, the Associated Press reports. The woman, a 20-year-old, said the photo session was designed to get back at her boyfriend.

It’s, indeed, a low point when we use sex to try and hurt those we purport to love, let alone put children in the way of harm or neglect. We’ve written about the benefits of nudity and highlighted different perspectives on sex. Let a quick thought from David Deida’s “Instant Enlightenment” serve as a commentary on this case:

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Anti depression: Using grief for a chiropractic adjustment

There’s a song by that un-sexy trendsetter Johnny Rotten — maybe you heard it — where he rants a refrain, Anger is an energy.

The track is called Rise, and it was done by Rotten’s post-Sex Pistols band, Public Image Ltd.

Anger’s an energy? Ya, we get it. From the World Trade Center to Oklahoma City, it can obliterate buildings. Far more of a reach is to grok how depression is equally an energy, maybe even moreso. As strange as it sounds, depression from a loss, a death, a break-up, bankruptcy or divorce has been tapped by people to propel themselves forward with the same force that others use anger.

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