Comments on: LOVE SCROLL: The Best Thing http://www.soulscode.com/the-best-thing/ Everyone's a Guru Fri, 27 Jan 2012 06:39:06 +0000 hourly 1 By: DarthVeda http://www.soulscode.com/the-best-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-391 DarthVeda Mon, 07 May 2007 22:45:20 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/?p=144#comment-391 A friend of mine has been freaking out recently about her life. One of her long-running love affairs proposed to her, then, days later, slept with another woman. One of her friends got angry at her and said she didn't want to be friends with her ever again. It's been a rough week by any measure. She turned to me to get advice. I used to love giving advice, it's an ego-boosting experience to be consulted for guidance on somebody else's life. But after I advised a coworker on an immigration issue that backfired and resulted in several thousand dollars of expenses and a big dent in her career, I've been reluctant to advise anyone. When my friend came to me for advice, I refused to offer any easy answers. I tried to listen to her instead. I asked questions about how she felt instead of talking myself. We've been friends for three years now and she said this to me today: "I like what you have turned into." It was an amazing thing to hear. A friend of mine has been freaking out recently about her life. One of her long-running love affairs proposed to her, then, days later, slept with another woman. One of her friends got angry at her and said she didn’t want to be friends with her ever again. It’s been a rough week by any measure.

She turned to me to get advice. I used to love giving advice, it’s an ego-boosting experience to be consulted for guidance on somebody else’s life.

But after I advised a coworker on an immigration issue that backfired and resulted in several thousand dollars of expenses and a big dent in her career, I’ve been reluctant to advise anyone.

When my friend came to me for advice, I refused to offer any easy answers. I tried to listen to her instead. I asked questions about how she felt instead of talking myself.

We’ve been friends for three years now and she said this to me today: “I like what you have turned into.”

It was an amazing thing to hear.

]]> By: Enis Wang http://www.soulscode.com/the-best-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-359 Enis Wang Fri, 04 May 2007 07:52:22 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/?p=144#comment-359 One of my students said I changed his life for the better by helping him understand the value of literature. It's flattering to think he will enjoy books for the rest of his life because I reached out to him. One of my students said I changed his life for the better by helping him understand the value of literature. It’s flattering to think he will enjoy books for the rest of his life because I reached out to him.

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