Comments on: The Dalai Lama speaks . . . about sex http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/ Everyone's a Guru Fri, 27 Jan 2012 06:39:06 +0000 hourly 1 By: Venth http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-96450 Venth Sat, 30 May 2009 16:02:13 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/#comment-96450 Meditation on bliss-awareness generated through sex is fine. Attachment is trouble. V Meditation on bliss-awareness generated through sex is fine. Attachment is trouble.

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]]> By: Rudy http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-49682 Rudy Sun, 14 Dec 2008 16:58:22 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/#comment-49682 Let's face it, sex=trouble for most people. DL is just speaking to this sad fact. His vows of celibacy are not a conceit, not by a long shot. Every student of this lineage has the freedom to choose a path of sexual exploration if they wish. And if they do, it is not a dishonor. There are many great teachers who have chosen the tantric path and continue to teach the Dharma. Let’s face it, sex=trouble for most people. DL is just speaking to this sad fact. His vows of celibacy are not a conceit, not by a long shot. Every student of this lineage has the freedom to choose a path of sexual exploration if they wish. And if they do, it is not a dishonor. There are many great teachers who have chosen the tantric path and continue to teach the Dharma.

]]> By: Pauline http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-48975 Pauline Fri, 12 Dec 2008 01:57:42 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/#comment-48975 i like the dalai lama, i mean what's not to like :) but i'm not sure i want to take advice on sex and sexuality from someone who actually isn't having sex and isn't involved in a sexual relationship with another person. it's like catholic priests giving marital advice when they have never, and will never be, married! i like the dalai lama, i mean what’s not to like :) but i’m not sure i want to take advice on sex and sexuality from someone who actually isn’t having sex and isn’t involved in a sexual relationship with another person. it’s like catholic priests giving marital advice when they have never, and will never be, married!

]]> By: David Rickey http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-48575 David Rickey Wed, 10 Dec 2008 16:50:31 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/#comment-48575 In my work with couples and my own experience, I find that the "troubles" are usually important signposts to the inner work we need to do. The troubles are inevitable, because they arise out of our wounded histories. But to therefore avoid intimate relationships is just to put off doing the work. By choosing to look within and do the work, we achieve insight and find the power to grow beyond our histories. Yes, you can't find solace and happiness with a partner, but being with a partner give you the opportunity to work so as to discover the source of true happiness within yourself. Your partner can do the same, and the results are not only a "happy" union but a new energy field that radiates out into the world. In my work with couples and my own experience, I find that the “troubles” are usually important signposts to the inner work we need to do. The troubles are inevitable, because they arise out of our wounded histories. But to therefore avoid intimate relationships is just to put off doing the work. By choosing to look within and do the work, we achieve insight and find the power to grow beyond our histories. Yes, you can’t find solace and happiness with a partner, but being with a partner give you the opportunity to work so as to discover the source of true happiness within yourself. Your partner can do the same, and the results are not only a “happy” union but a new energy field that radiates out into the world.

]]> By: Sammi Coulthard http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-48551 Sammi Coulthard Wed, 10 Dec 2008 14:11:11 +0000 http://www.soulscode.com/the-dalai-lama-speaks-about-sex/#comment-48551 I myself have had difficult relationships, in my youth especially. I now understand that a need to be loved by someone is natural, but not necessarily good for us. We project our fears and insecurities in a relationship onto the other person, which if we are dissatisfied, emotionally insecure and underdeveloped etc. will begin to cause problems. It's all summed up in a simple and well known saying, "it is not possible to love another until you are loved by your own self." Sex of course is a basic and fundamental urge, as humans we must procreate. Until we have worked out our personal insecurities and have a full understanding of how damaging our Egos can be to ourselves and others and until we are lucky enough to find another who is fully understanding and on a similar path. I agree that sex and relationships can be difficult and damaging and we spend too much time believing that we can find solace and happiness with a partner. I myself have had difficult relationships, in my youth especially. I now understand that a need to be loved by someone is natural, but not necessarily good for us. We project our fears and insecurities in a relationship onto the other person, which if we are dissatisfied, emotionally insecure and underdeveloped etc. will begin to cause problems.

It’s all summed up in a simple and well known saying, “it is not possible to love another until you are loved by your own self.” Sex of course is a basic and fundamental urge, as humans we must procreate. Until we have worked out our personal insecurities and have a full understanding of how damaging our Egos can be to ourselves and others and until we are lucky enough to find another who is fully understanding and on a similar path. I agree that sex and relationships can be difficult and damaging and we spend too much time believing that we can find solace and happiness with a partner.

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